I have a fair amount of “friends” on Facebook and such that are moms. Most of them are normal moms that post photos of the fam and kids and all that. Then I have some that are SUPER extreme. Having to document every goddamn stage of their pregnancy. Asking questions about their symptoms as facebook status updates and then the ones who have to post articles about different things and state their (usually) unpopular opinion. Normally I just tend to just scroll past these people or just click that button that makes sure I don’t see their shit in my news feed.
I’m not sure why but a couple of things have been bothering me (although not necessarily aimed at mommy posts). It’s just those few memes or whatever that you’ve been seeing in your news feed and you really just wanna lay into the person.
Anti-Vaxxers. Science people. SCIENCE. Look, I’m not a doctor. I don’t claim to be one. But I can tell you this… when I was a kid there was never a risk of me getting goddamn MEASLES or MUMPS or POLIO because before I received my vaccination I was safe because of a little thing called “herd immunity.” If you don’t know what that is, let me break it down for you quick. Herd Immunity basically means that everyone is generally immune to these contagious diseases because there is a high number of people are already immune to it/have received the vaccination for it. Listen, Measles was pretty much freaking eradicated when I was a kid because everyone got the vaccine for it. So I wasn’t at risk when I was between the ages of 1 day old and 6 months old when I was too young to receive the vaccine. Why the hell do you think these contagious diseases have come back? Because herd immunity does not exist because of this Anti-Vaxxer movement. What is upsetting is that you’ve decided that since you graduated from the University of Google with your medical degree that you aren’t going to vaccinate your child. So other people’s small children that are too young to receive the vaccine, actually get said contagious disease because you’re pretty much an asshole. Furthermore what upsets me the most is that you would rather run the risk of having your child (or someone else’s child) die from previously eradicated diseases like MUMPS than potentially (POTENTIALLY) have an “autistic” child. That’s your excuse. You don’t want your child to develop AUTISM (something that you can live with just fine and won’t kill you) so you won’t vaccinate them… and you could potentially kill another persons child or your own. Thumbs up to you! Also, the Autism thing has been proven to be a crock of shit. Please vaccinate your spawn.
“If you’re not a mom you don’t [insert bullshit here].” Recently I’ve seen more than one person post a meme with someone laughing their ass off. The caption reads, “When people without kids tell me they’re tired.” I’m sorry, what’s that? I have no idea what it means to be tired because I haven’t had my own crotchfruit to take care of? Look, go fuck yourself. You don’t have to have a kid to understand what burnout, tiredness or overwhelming stress is. Just because I’m not chasing around demonspawn doesn’t mean that I don’t work my ASS off 6 – 7 days a week 65+ hours a week. I don’t care what you say someone who works 6 days a week, 65+ hours a week DOES know what it means to be tired. I am tired, all the time and you can kiss my fat ass if you think I don’t know what burnout is because I don’t have to chase a little bastard child around. Is chasing little kids around and caring for them tiring? I’m sure it is. But don’t sit there and tell me I don’t know what I’m talking about because I decided not to reproduce. I work my ass off, I’m allowed to be tired and stressed out too.
“All Lives Matter/Blue Lives Matter” supporters. Please just stop. All lives DO matter, however the lives in jeopardy right now are BLACK LIVES. That is what the movement is about. Being white myself, learning about the BLM movement was one of the hardest, most uncomfortable things I’ve ever done. The thing is, white people don’t LIKE to be uncomfortable. Which is why they get all butt-hurt about the misunderstanding about what the BLM movement is about. In order to understand this you have to remove yourself from your comfort zone and look at things from a different perspective. Being white is considered “normal” so imagine how brown people feel. Everything is catered towards being white, so if you’re black you have to grow up in a world where you “aren’t normal.” I know that it’s hard to comprehend, believe me I know. Growing up white (even though I’m technically not white. But I look white therefore I reap the benefits whether I want them or not) is easy. But you have to realize that you benefit from looking white and then you need to start researching systematic racism. Just start there. Remember OPEN MIND.
Everyone is so quick to start burning Colin Kaepernick’s jersey when he decided to kneel during the national anthem. Did any of those people that were SO PISSED burn cop uniforms when Philando Castile was gunned down? When Trayvon Martin was shot for wearing a fucking hoodie? Or just recently the other day when some woman cop got “scared” and shot Terence Crutcher? The dashcam video and the pure HATRED spewed from the helicopter audio makes me sick. Oh, not buring cop uniforms are you? Not OUTRAGED that a father was gunned down for NOTHING. I didn’t think so. You want to live in a place where you’re forced to stand during the national anthem? Get your ass over to North Korea. I’m tired of seeing those memes of injured soldiers in wheelchairs with captions about “you feel oppressed so I’ll stand for you too.” Fuck you dude. Those people fought for FREEDOM. This includes the freedom to PROTEST. You don’t have to agree with Kaepernick and that is irrelevant anyway. Everyone should support his right to protest. He isn’t hurting anyone for Christ’s sake. Also, since when does the fucking government make “patriotism” mandatory? Are we Nazi’s now? Forcing patriotism? Lastly, I also really loved all of the memes giving Kaepernick shit because he was raised by wealthy white parents. I’ll tell you this, you don’t have to be the “oppressed” to take a stand. I’m not oppressed in any way (well other than being a woman, but I’m still white) but I fucking salute the BLM movement. Nothing gets fixed if you stay quiet.
Lastly the $15 minimum wage thing. Okay, I get it. Trust me, for a long time I was a fucking LEAD at a retailer and was making $12.75/hr. Was it livable? Yes, but only thanks to credit cards. So I understand that every person needs to make a living wage that is working a solid 40 hours. However, the problem with this is that it was only (at least here in Minnesota) going to take place for MINNEAPOLIS businesses. So what about surrounding cities? Oh, you work in St. Paul? Sucks to be you. You work in Bloomington? Nope, min wage is still $9.50.
I also think we need to look at places that have already had the minimum wage increase happen over the last couple of years. Namely Seattle. It’s not all rainbows and butterflies out there. There’s plenty of unemployment because there are fewer jobs. I’m not trying to be an asshole about it but it’s true. You can’t have cheap fucking goods and pay people $15/hr to throw it in a bag and ask you to open a credit card. I think the real thing we need to look at here is the housing situation. Instead of making the minimum wage $15 why can’t you find affordable housing? Why is a fucking studio apartment in Minneapolis $750/month? You don’t even get a goddamn bedroom! A 1 bedroom is $945 and a two bedroom is about $1300. How about you make HOUSING affordable? This way you can pay people adequate amounts of money based on their job and the skills and degrees/schooling it requires. Minnesota has raised the minimum wage from $8/hr to $9.50 in the last two years which is a step in the right direction. Does it need to go up more? Yes. To $15? No. We really need to look at having affordable housing and childcare options. You should not have to pay someone $25/hr to watch your damn crotchfruit either. That’s a whole ‘nother post I’ll have to brew up.
Alright, until next time.